It’s a skill that no one taught you. Let me teach you.
If you are ready to stop feeling fear & anxiety about your travel adventure, & you are ready to claim your confidence, then these four steps are for you.
Feeling confident changes your attitude, the actions you take & he results you get in your life.
Whilst travelling solo it can be the difference between having the time of your life & wishing you were back in the comfort of your own home…
Let me tell you about the time I went to Greece for my birthday. I had originally thought one of my best friends was coming along. We were both living together in London & had been doing a few small trips together around the UK & Europe. We had talked about going to Greece & spending my 29th birthday there, island hopping & getting some much needed sunshine. I decide to book earlier rather than later so as not to miss out. She couldn’t afford to book but I had no concerns that she would when we she was ready & we started to get excited together… Little did I know that a death in her family was around the corner & she would be returning back to the other side of the world – to live.
I was devastated. Not only was I now living in London without my best friend. I was soon to be homeless. And a few months away from my big Greek adventure. Alone.
I had booked into a tour group. I was telling myself this was a good thing whilst secretly freaking out about having to meet new people. What if they don’t like me? What if they are a bunch of party people & I’m not? What if I don’t fit in & I’m the odd one out?
I was seriously freaking out! There was more dread than excitement about this trip.
It wasn’t my first solo travel experience and yet I was still panicking about every little detail.
I tried so hard to feel excited. Everyone else was so excited for me & I just played along… Anxiety, overwhelming fear, self doubt … those are a few of the emotions I was feeling.
I was feeling anything BUT confident.
The night before I flew out I stayed in a fancy 5 star airport hotel which I though would be a nice treat and help get me excited for the trip. I was so anxious I did not enjoy one minute of that expensive hotel nor did I get much sleep.
When I arrived in Greece at the hotel I met one of the two girls I would be sharing a room with (fellow solo women travellers) & she was nice. But this did not stop my mind from creating a crazy stream of ‘what if’ scenarios and hypothetical situations. Met second room mate later that day & began to feel a bit better about my situation..
Then came the group meeting that evening where we met the rest of our tour group. I had to drink two beers before summoning up the courage to introduce myself in a group situation. It still amazes me to this day the amount of courage we can feel when surrounded by our friends & family (safety in numbers).
Ok, let me get to the point of my story.
I lacked confidence.
I felt a LOT of anxiety, self doubt and overwhelming fear instead. I now know this was completely unnecessary.
I missed out on a few of the things I wanted to see & do. I didn’t always speak my mind around these unfamiliar people & I held myself back.
Don’t get me wrong, I still did see & do a lot. I had a wonderful time. I met some amazing people!
But I wanted to see more. Do more. Be more….
And now I know I can. I am & I have. I have the tools & the knowhow to be different & to feel different.
I am confident. I am courageous. I am excited.
And when I say confident I want to clear something up – I’m not talking about that cocky, or arrogant, or fake it till you make it kind of confidence. I am talking about the genuine, I am in a really good place, It doesn’t matter if anyone likes me or not, I am happy, kind of confident. I love this feeling. I want to share what I have learned. How I got this solo travel confidence.
I want you to LOVE travelling solo, to embrace this & do it often. I want YOU to have the confidence to see & do everything you want on your adventures & never miss out.
You deserve to feel confident. It’s a skill that no one taught you. Let me teach you.